Wednesday 18 March 2020

The great value of being the middle generation

In recent months, I've come to value being part of a middle generation. I don't mean being middle aged, though that's probably relevant. What I mean is having both adult children and parents.

My parents are still healthy and enjoying life and we live close by. This means that mum and dad are still there for a chat, for some dinner when Anne's away, and I still seek their guidance and advice sometimes.

I have two adult sons, one of whom is married now. So I can have proper, grown-up conversations with the generations either side of me. And there is something deeply comforting in that.

But there has been a change in this landscape. My father-in-law died last weekend, or as we like to say, he was 'promoted to glory'. He has been dealing with the impacts of dementia for some time now and we have seen him change from what he was to what he became. He had a great impact on my life. After all, he let me marry his daughter, and so my life has been greatly improved.

So there is great value in being the middle generation. Enjoy it while you can, if you get the chance.
With my father-in-law in 2017

My parents and siblings etc - Christmas 2019