Good afternoon everyone. My name is Rev Brian Harvey
and on behalf of the family, I welcome you to this very
special service.
Some years ago now, Michael introduced Constance to
the rest of his family, and I think I can say that she felt welcomed. When we
learnt about her history with cancer, it was kind of amazing to be in the
presence of someone who had such an incredible story to tell.
The relationship developed, and at some point I
travelled to a second hand book store in Edithvale to meet with Constance and
Michael to prepare for their wedding.
Then in October 2004, in a little church in Harden,
I stood with Michael & Constance in the presence of friends and family and
God to conduct their wedding. That day still stands in my memory as a great
wedding and a great day in our family.
I am Michael’s cousin, and it is a privilege to be
able to lead this service today.
You will have your own stories and memories of
Constance and your relationship with her. I hope you will take some time today
to share some of those stories and memories and cry or laugh together.
In our service we will hear eulogies from family
members, a special song being sung, and will be able to see a number of photos
of different aspects of Connie’s life. Then I’ll read an ancient poem. To
start, I invite Michael to come and speak to us.
(This was followed by other family members speaking. These messages were all outstanding and honouring.)
Psalm 23
A psalm of David.
1
The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.
2 He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
3 he restores my soul.
He guides me in paths of righteousness
for his name’s sake.
4 Even though I walk
through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.
5 You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies.
You anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
6 Surely goodness and love will follow me
all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord
forever.
Here is a quote from another old poem:
“Life is a journey; long is the road,
And when the noontide is high
Souls that are weary faint 'neath their load,
Long for the waters, and cry:”
So begins an old song, and as we gather together
this afternoon, recognising all that has happened over Connie’s life, that
first line is painfully relevant:
“Life is a journey; long is the road”
Like all journeys, the journey of life will take us
into unexpected and unwanted areas. But the fullness of life will also show
that this journey isn’t always in unexpected and unwanted areas. Often this
journey passes through times of great peace and happiness.
Psalm 23 is a beautiful poem, but it is not a poem
written for funerals. However, it is nonetheless relevant and helpful for us
today as we celebrate a journey of life that we have all shared in, though in
different ways. This Psalm speaks of a journey of life and all that this
journey contains. It begins with a peaceful journey.
The
Peaceful Road of Life
The road of peace is a road that we all want. We
want it on a global scale when we look to the overwhelming troubles in the road
and wonder if there will ever be peace. We want peace when there is strife in
our families and in our neighbourhoods. We want peace.
Here is how this poem describes the road of peace
“Lying down in green pastures”; “Besides quiet
waters”, “Restores my soul”, “Paths of Righteousness”.
I’m not very good at poetry, and I know that if I’m
asked to describe a peaceful life, I will just use lots of words. The writer of
this poem knows how to communicate in better ways, and reading these words,
even speaking these words evokes thoughts of a place where you have been able
to rest – to relax – to just be.
We know that for Connie, for the family, for
friends, the thought of walking the journey of life along a road or pathway of
peace has been little more than a distant thought for a number of years. Yet
this shouldn’t remove the reality of those times of peace and rest and fun that
Connie did enjoy over her life time.
The fact that the journey of life takes us through
peaceful places should never be forgotten.
But that this journey of life isn’t all green
pastures and quiet waters.
The
Difficult Road
Though the writer uses three or four images to
describe what I call a road of peace, he only needs one to describe the
difficult road:
“Walk through the valley of the shadow of death”
We don’t need to hear anything more.
We don’t want to hear anything more because this
image is complete enough. The journey through a dark valley can be a scary one perhaps
because you cannot see everything that is around you. This journey can be a
difficult one because it takes you away from that place of peace and comfort
that we would prefer.
Why would such an image as this be found within the
Bible? Simply, because the Bible does not hide from the difficulties of life.
Why would I think such an image is relevant for our gathering today? Simply
because this shadow has been hanging over the family for a long time. But at
this point I want to point out three quick and important things
First, things grow in the valley. This is just a
simple reality – things grow in valleys more than on mountain tops.
Second, if there is a shadow there must be light.
Third, it is in this valley that some of Connie’s
greatest life work has been achieved. I don’t say her greatest work, because
her greatest work has been with Michael in being the mother to these two great
lads. Her greatest work is in teaching and modelling
to her children how to live in difficult times. But this doesn’t take away the
reality that it is in this valley of the shadow of death that Connie’s great
impact has been made.
There is the change in attitude from “I’m dying of
cancer” to “I’m living with cancer.” There is the decision to look beyond
herself to the hundreds and thousands of others who are dealing with cancer.
Then with her brother Sam, and a huge and growing team of supporters, Love Your
Sister came to be. Some of us remember standing in the baking sun at Federation
Square in Melbourne as Sam began the unicycle journey, and that journey has
continued in raising funds and, perhaps more importantly, urging women to be
‘breast aware’.
Many have seen the Facebook community grow into
thousands, and when I wonder what impact Connie has made on the lives of
others, I read comments like this:
Connie, you are the most inspiring person I have never met.
What Connie has done in her lifetime is more
than most would do in a lifetime a lot longer than hers.
with all the hate in the world at the moment you have inspired a
passion in all your followers that there is a better more loving and meaningful
way to live. Thank you.
And people didn’t just look on as watchers. People
feel a belonging and a connection to this village, so they say things like:
Love to all, feel like we have lost a family member
Many others expressed their sadness and also their
support for all the family with words like:
A brighter world having had Connie on it... And Sam ... Thinking of you and
your family... And Connie's husband and beloved boys. RIP beautiful girl.
The journey of life will take us through the valley
of the shadow of death, but it is a journey that goes through it. Keep on
going.
The
Final Destination
This journey of life will bring us to a final
destination. The writer of this Psalm, this holy poem, knows this. Instead of
taking time to write a poem to inspire people to greatness and endurance in
their own strength and wisdom, this writer points to the shepherd who will
provide what is needed and the rest that is required. This writer points to the
guide who will lead him in paths of righteousness and the one who will walk
with him through the valley of the shadow of death and who will bring great
comfort particularly in those times.
Then this writer points to a host who will welcome
the weary yet contented traveller at the end of days.
So we learn that if we look for our greatest
strength in ourselves, it will fail. It may endure for a time, but it will
fail. These words urge us to look to the shepherd, to the one who could say of
himself, “I am the good shepherd”. Even these ancient words urge us to look to
Jesus as our greatest hope and our Saviour.
The journey of life takes us through peaceful places
and through difficult places. In all of them these words, and the experience of
countless others, teach that we are not alone. God is there in all of it. I
pray that you will know quiet waters and green pastures more than valleys and
shadows.
Prayer
O mighty God, father of all mankind, as we gather
here today we do so with very mixed feelings. Our hearts are aching for the
life that has come to an end. And yet we are thankful for a life that has been
lived and for the impact of that life. We give you thanks for Constance
Johnson.
As we come to the end of our time together here, I
pray that you would bring healing to broken hearts, peace to troubled minds,
and joy to despairing souls.
Lord, our great shepherd, guide us into paths of
peace, for your name’s sake.
Amen.
Friends, as we come to the close of our service, in
a moment I will give the words of committal. As the coffin is lowered to
Constance’s final place, you will hear the words of James Blunt’s song,
“Goodbye My Lover.”
Committal
Having given thanks for the life of our friend,
sister, husband, mother Constance Anne Johnson, we now commit her body to be
cremated, earth to earth, ashes to ashes, dust to dust. Amen.